Don't Blame Your Horse; A Training Focused on You
This training is about taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable for what is unfolding in your life and in your relationship with your horse.
We will move away from blaming ourselves and our horses. Blame gets us nowhere, accountability gets us everywhere.
So what’s the difference?
Self-Blame looks like this-
“Oh, that lesson didn’t go well, I’m such a bad rider”.
“Oh, my horse is acting up, I’m such a bad trainer”.
“Oh, everyone in the arena is staring at me. Must be because I’m bad at this”.
Blame For Others looks like this-
“Oh, I’d get a great dressage score if my horse wasn’t such a jerk”.
“Oh, I’d be jumping higher fences if my trainer was better”.
“Oh, I’m a great rider, my horse just can’t get it together”.
Accountability looks different. First of all, it involves taking ownership of everything that goes wrong. That’s right - I mean everything. It’s not your fault, but it’s your responsibility.
“Oh, that lesson didn’t go well. What went wrong and what can I do differently in my next ride?”
“Oh, that dressage score was not great. Let’s see what the judges had to say and see how I can work with my horse for us to improve.”
These are examples of holding yourself accountable without blame. You are looking at experience as problems to be solved, which allows us and our horses an opportunity to grow.
To consistently hold ourselves accountable we need to know what we are feeling and find healthy ways to express emotions and needs. When we don’t do this we act out towards ourselves and others.
In this training you will learn how to explore your internal world, become more embodied and live a more authentic life. Trust me, your horse will thank you (as well as everyone else in your life).