Recently I’ve been spending time in cafes, working on new trainings and doing some writing. I mostly get absorbed in my world, but sometimes I can’t help but overhear conversation at the tables next to me.
For some reason I’ve found myself next to “business men” on a lunch break quite often. They are not discussing work, but they are also not saying anything. The conversations are insignificant, fillers of time, and lack any depth. Their brains are speaking to one another, but their bodies and emotions are tucked away, maybe until they get home, but most likely for much longer.
This observation is not meant to come across as judgment, I am simply highlighting how often we miss opportunities to connect, to be seen, to be heard.
I realize how fortunate I am to work with a team that see lunch (when we get one) as a valuable time to check in with one another.
Humans are herd animals. We need connection.
If sharing the truth of how you are feeling, and asking for what you need feels terrifying or impossible, get help. Find a person, therapist, coach, whatever, that can help you disassemble the walls you have built. Living in a fortress may feel safe, but trust me, life is way more exciting when you are riding the rapids of your emotions with a crew of other adventurers.